What Women Really Want Men to Do in Bed

Every man who wants to be a “good lover” should combine professional knowledge with practice—not just imitate scenes from adult films.

Many men ask questions like:

  • “Any tips for oral sex with my girlfriend?”

  • “How can I make her climax intensely?”

It’s clear: many men care deeply about their partner’s sexual satisfaction and want to be the kind of man who brings pleasure.

At the same time, many women share frustrations:

  • “My husband is always in a rush and impatient; I barely feel anything.”

  • “My boyfriend tries foreplay, but I never get aroused.”

  • “He can’t find the right spot, and even if I tell him, it doesn’t help; I have to take care of it myself.”

Even the most well-intentioned men sometimes fail to satisfy their partners. Why? Because men often make common mistakes during sex—ranging from mindset to technique. Here are the main four:

1. Using Porn as a Textbook

Without proper sexual education, many men try to learn from adult movies.

  • Movies are designed to satisfy male visual and psychological pleasure.

  • Blindly copying moves rarely translates into a partner’s enjoyment.

2. Obsessing Over “Masculinity”

Many men show off size, stamina, speed, or frequency, thinking approval equals success.

  • Reality: none of these guarantees her pleasure.

3. Neglecting Emotional Connection

For women, emotional intimacy is essential.

  • Women have multiple “pleasure switches”; only when all are on can she experience maximum satisfaction.

  • If the emotional switch is off, even the best oral or manual stimulation won’t work.

4. Failing to Arouse Desire

Before sex, it’s crucial to make a woman desire you.

  • Without emotional attraction or desire, it’s impossible to activate her sexual response.

  • Ignoring personal charm, foreplay, and flirtation leads to disinterest.

How to Be a Good Lover

To get her “approval,” men should stop obsessing over size and duration, and not rely on a few “trick moves.”

A good lover:

  • Exudes charm and sexual charisma

  • Flirts and teases in daily life, building anticipation

  • Uses eye contact, voice, and touch to maintain emotional connection

  • Masters foreplay, oral, and manual techniques

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